We always see a lot of blog posts about what you’ve learned from breaking up with a boyfriend or girlfriend. For example, you may have learned they were a complete douchebag or a selfish asshole lol… this list goes on and on.
So what happens when you have to break up with your best friend? The person that got you through that break-up and dragged you out of the house; or made you laugh from all the dumb stuff that you guys did that no one quite understood. Whether you’ve been friends throughout childhood or you’ve met your best friend throughout adulthood. It’s never an easy task to let the people you share your most memorable moments with go. Though its a lot easier said to let a best friend go, keep reading for what you can learn from the experience.
1: SOMETIMES YOU JUST OUT GROW PEOPLE
This is one of the biggest reasons why friends stop speaking to each other. Your lives may be going in two completely different directions and if you are not able to reach some common ground where you can still connect, everything will just fall apart. For example, maybe your best friend has decided to settle down and get married and have children. Meanwhile, you’re still ready to “turn up” and travel the whole world and eat pizza every night for a week straight . We aren’t saying that you can’t be friends with each other but if you both don’t have a mutual understanding for each other’s lifestyles, your relationship will fade away and you will eventually grow apart. You will meet new friends that share similar lifestyles and similar interests as you. If you care about your friendship make sure you are able to still encourage each other and still support each other’s lifestyles, despite the fact that you both will have different daily struggles.
2: DID’NT REALIZE THIS WAS A COMPETITION
Sometimes its time to let a friend go because the friendship is a big competition to them. It gets to a point where they can’t celebrate your accomplishments but instead they highlight their own. They are unable to have their “own” life and try to start living yours. You can learn from this situation by understanding friend or no friend people have the ability to become jealous of you. Friends that are unable to genuinely celebrate your accomplishments are secretly wishing for you to fail and is an enemy in disguise. Get rid of these types of friends!!
3: YOU’RE ONLY FRIENDS BECAUSE YOU’VE KNOWN EACH OTHER FOR A LONG TIME:
If this is your only reason for being friends with someone, we are here to tell you that is not a legitimate reason. It’s similar to staying with a boyfriend or girlfriend you are unhappy with knowing you aren’t happy just because you’ve been together for a while. You don’t have to force yourself to call someone or hang out just because you two shared crayons in 3rd grade.
4: ALL YOU DO IS USE ME
Have you ever had a friend that is always asking to borrow money or using you because they’re single and lonely but as soon as they get a partner they go MIA. These types of friends can teach you to put your foot down. Your relationship will either be strong enough for you to tell them how you feel or they will simply go about their business and find someone else to use.
5. YOU DON’T OWE THEM ANYTHING
Lastly, if you decide to end your friendship with your bestie remember that you don’t owe them anything. This might sound extremely harsh, especially if you’ve known them for a long time but don’t guilt trip yourself. If you aren’t happy in a relationship whether it be with a lover or friend you ultimately always have the choice to leave. Life is too short for meaningless relationships.