After a certain point, every relationship reaches a threshold of mounting sexual tension. The only two options are to give in and finally sleep together or allow the curiosity to build beyond imaginable measures. All sounds so great right? Like hitting the sex lotto. Then there’s the possibility that after all that sexual frustration, you finally do the deed and well; it sucks. Heres the pros and cons of sex on the first date.
-They say to never buy the car without taking it for a test drive first. That’s because you don’t want to get stuck with a monthly payment for a piece of crap you should’ve left on the lot. Now just apply that same analogy to people. Sex on the first date can really prevent you from getting stuck with someone you don’t really like. If the sex is bad or there’s no chemistry in the bedroom why keep them around? Maybe they aren’t as sexually open as you are and wouldn’t that be nice to know now before really getting attached? Just something to consider.
-Maybe they’re only in it for the sex anyways. Imagine the embarrassment of having to explain to your mom where this one went off to because you decided to finally smash him, 10 dates and 3 months later. Forget the 30 or 90 day rule. Some people are very patient when it comes to sleeping with someone they really want. Not to mention they’re probably still getting their parts serviced anyways until you finally say those 3 special words. “Let’s do it.”
-You’ll get to meet them for a second time. Yes that’s right, you never really know a person but you really don’t know them if you haven’t hit the sac with them yet. That’s because sex reveals a persons true colors. After sex is when most people stop trying to hide behind that perfect persona they introduced you to when you first met. That’s when those hidden feelings, crazy behaviors, and insecurities show up to the party. Some people’s feelings manifest even more after sex (mostly women) while others lose interest quicker than it formed (mostly men). Consider it a parting gift. They gave you an orgasm, hopefully, and you get to see if she really is like “one of the bros.” Chances are, she’s totally not.
Sex can be a final deal breaker for any relationship but especially one that’s newly forming. Unfortunately, getting all horizontal and sweaty after a first date can do anything but make things exclusive. Sometimes it sends the signal that, well, you’re a hoe. Sorry I had to say it. Don’t think you’re not included in this either fellas. It may be normal for you men to sleep around and do as you please but for some women its a huge turn off. Just know that theres a chance neither of you will be considering meeting the parents if you smash on the first date.
-Ever wondered why that cute guy or hot girl you’ve been seeing stopped trying to impress you after you slept together? Thats because they lost interest. Yea hate to say it but sex should be treated like the big bang. One of those moments you reach after imagining it for endless hours and working yourself into a frenzy. There’s literally supposed to be fireworks. If they stick around and are just as interested if not more after sex, congrats; there were fireworks everywhere. On the flip side, they could totally stop giving a fuck. They already conquered you, so whats the point in developing anything further. Yea you might be a great person that does charity work on the weekends but that doesn’t mean they are going to care to find out. Some people lose complete interest in a person after sex happens so quickly and thats because there wasn’t enough time to bond over anything else. In other words, they’re never coming back.